A story from Africa
Once there were two boys who were great friends, and they were determined to remain that way forever. When they grew up and got married, they built their houses facing one another. There was a small path that formed a border between their farms.
One day, a trickster from the village decided to play a trick on them. He dressed himself in a two-color coat that was divided down the middle. So, one side of the coat was red, and the other side was blue.
The trickster wore this coat and walked along the narrow path between the houses of the two friends. They were each working opposite each other in their fields. The trickster made enough noise as he passed them to make sure that each of them would look up and see him passing.
At the end of the day, one friend said to the other, “Wasn’t that a beautiful red coat that man was wearing today?”
“No”, the other replied. “It was a blue coat.”
“I saw the man clearly as he walked between us!” said the first, “His coat was red.”
“You are wrong!” said the other man, “I saw it too, and it was blue.”
“I know what I saw!” insisted the first man. “The coat was red!”
“You don’t know anything,” the second man replied angrily. “It was blue!”
They kept arguing about this over and over, insulted each other, and eventually, they began to beat each other and roll around on the ground.
Just then, the trickster returned and faced the two men, who were punching and kicking each other and shouting, “Our friendship is OVER!”
The trickster walked directly in front of them, and showed them his coat. He laughed at their silly fight. The two friends saw his coat was red on one side and blue on the other.
The two friends stopped fighting and screamed at the trickster saying, “We have lived side by side like brothers all our lives, and it is all your fault that we are fighting. You have started a fight between us.”
“Don’t blame me for your faults,” replied the trickster. “I did not make you fight. Both of you are wrong, and both of you are right. Yes, what each one of you saw was true. You are fighting because you want to beat the other into believing what you saw rather than listen to what they saw.”
Moral: You can’t force someone to see what you see. There are much better ways to go about achieving this.
“It is better to extend an open hand rather than swing a closed fist.”
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Never get into an argument with an idiot – you’ll just lower yourself to their level and they’ll beat you with experience.
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Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle ~ Plato
Fill your pocket with zen today!
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June 22, 2012 at 7:25 am
livvy1234
Dear Zendicitive,
I want you to know how much I enjoy reading the stories you post each morning with my coffee. I have sent many of them off to others so that they many benefit, too. Thanks for all your hard work, and wake up calls!
June 22, 2012 at 9:30 am
Cat Forsley
Everyone has bobos in life .,…….
Love this one mr. art campbell ………..:)
If we can see that everyone in this life comes here with a wound of some sort
then yes there would be more kindness …………….. xo
Love
XX Cat
June 22, 2012 at 10:41 am
erranttranscendentalist
What a useful parable! Thanks!!
June 22, 2012 at 7:35 pm
bibuji
A great wisdom in Africa.
June 23, 2012 at 11:31 am
willowdot21
wisdom and knowledge as ever!!
September 13, 2012 at 10:29 am
WordsFallFromMyEyes
This is so excellent. What the trickster says at the end is just so right (and wrong!) – no, so right! 🙂