If people are trying to bring you down it only means that you are above them.

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The term “crab mentality” is used to describe a kind of selfish, short-sighted thinking which runs along the lines of “if I can’t have it, neither can you.” This term is especially widely used among Filipinos, who use it specifically to refer to people who pull other people down, denigrating them rather than letting them get ahead or pursue their dreams. As a general rule, an accusation of having a crab mentality is a poor reflection on someone’s personality.

This concept references an interesting phenomenon which occurs in buckets of crabs. If one crab attempts to escape from a bucket of live crabs, the other crabs will pull it back down, rather than allowing it to get free. Sometimes, the crabs seem almost malicious, waiting until the crab has almost escaped before yanking it back into the pot. All of the crabs are undoubtedly aware of the fact that their fate is probably not going to be very pleasurable, so people are led to wonder why they pull each other back into the bucket, instead of congratulating the clever escape artist.

When someone has a crab mentality, it means that they are unwilling to allow someone to get out of a situation, or to get ahead. In a classic example of crab mentality, people who are attempting to get out of bad life situations often find themselves foiled by friends and family members who keep sucking them back in. For example, a Latina immigrant in the United States who decides to pursue a college education in the hopes of securing a good career may find herself discouraged by family members who do not approve of education, or fear that she will become distanced from her family after going to college.

The crab mentality can strike at all levels of life. Some charitable organizations are sometimes accused of a crab mentality, with members of the organization failing to think ahead or refusing to support certain initiatives in a way which ultimately drags the whole charity down. In office environments, the crab mentality can be particularly devastating, as coworkers snipe at each other to bring each other down, rather than congratulating someone who earns a promotion.

The crab mentality is a reflection of the famous saying “we all like to see our friends get ahead, but not too far ahead.” Learning to recognize the crab mentality in yourself is a very good idea, especially if you work or live in a highly competitive environment. (this article found here)

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(while downloading songs onto my little sunshines mp3 she got for christmas I came across this song, since sunshine likes Miley Cyrus, I love the tune and the idea behind the lyrics)

The Climb

I can almost see it, That dream I am dreaming, But there’s a voice inside my head saying, “You’ll never reach it”
Every step I’m taking, Every move I make feels Lost with no direction, My faith is shaking
But I gotta keep trying, Gotta keep my head held high
There’s always gonna be another mountain, I’m always gonna wanna make it move, Always gonna be a uphill battle Sometimes I’m gonna have to lose
Ain’t about how fast I get there, Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side, It’s the climb

The struggles I’m facing, The chances I’m taking Sometimes might knock me down But no, I’m not breaking
I may not know it But these are the moments that I’m gonna remember most, yeah Just gotta keep going
And I, I got to be strong Just keep pushing on
‘Cause there’s always gonna be another mountain I’m always gonna wanna make it move, Always gonna be a uphill battle Sometimes I’m gonna have to lose
Ain’t about how fast I get there. Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side. It’s the climb, yeah!
There’s always gonna be another mountain. I’m always gonna wanna make it move. Always gonna be an uphill battle Somebody’s gonna have to lose
Ain’t about how fast I get there. Ain’t about what’s waiting on the other side. It’s the climb, yeah!
Keep on moving, keep climbing Keep the faith, baby It’s all about, it’s all about the climb Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoa

Read more: MILEY CYRUS – THE CLIMB LYRICS

Haters are like crickets. Crickets make a lot of noise, you hear them but you can’t see them. Then right when you walk by them, they’re quiet.

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